This woman allegedly killed her child, which is as bad as it gets. But there are a whole lot of other mothers out there basically allowing their kids to raise themselves. That is why there is so much killing and violence in the streets of every urban community, both large cities and even small towns. Blacks are killing each other at record pace, to the point they are the Killing Fields of America. Some are almost as bad as the Middle East.
Babies are having babies, and then those babies are having babies with no training of how to be a parent, or how precious a child is. Some are blaming the violence on unemployment and under-employment but is it really?
I have lived and read about the history of Blacks from the beginning of slavery to today, and at no period of American history have Colored People, Negroes, Black People or African Americans not struggled to survive as a whole. Times have never been good for us as a whole in this country, but we weren’t in the streets killing each other at the rate we are now.
A wise man, Hop Kendrick, hit the nail on the head. He said that nothing is going to change in the Black community until something is done in the home. There is a need for two parents in the home. Most mothers are doing a great job, but God set it up for there to be two parents. I agree. I believe that it’s the lack of home training, but nobody wants to hear this.
Men who are trying to get every woman they see in bed regardless of the consequences and don’t want to hear it. Nor do the females who sleep with males unprotected. Is this 2015 or 1915?
There are many mentoring programs popping up for our youth in education, but there should be just as many for educating our youth, both males and females, on parenting. Babies aren’t just something cute to have, they are a lot of trouble and they take a lot of time and money, and are a lifetime commitment.
We need mentoring programs that teach males and females what parenting entails, what to do to prevent having an unplanned child. We need them because we can no longer depend on the parents or the grandparents. We need classes that teach the difference between falling in love, and falling in lust. If it wasn’t lust then men wouldn’t disappear after; it use to be a few years, but now it’s a few months. I don’t even ask where’s the father anymore?
I sometimes wonder how my grandparents did it. On my mother’s side there were eight kids, and on my fathers’ side there were seven kids. But there were two parents, father and mother. Today that’s rare, yet girls are still having babies.
There are also a lot of females out there having babies for themselves. Then they find out this is not as easy as they thought. This is not a cute dog or pet. There are some females out there who will flat out tell you they want a child, not really caring about whom the father is.
Every parent should tell their sons to never assume the females are using contraceptives, and they should tell their daughters to never depend on the male having contraceptives, always have your own.
Where is the church in all this? The church teaches all of us that sex out of wedlock is a sin. Good, but do we stop there? Since most of us who grew up in the church are or were having sex out of wedlock is the church excused because “I told you so?” No.
As a part of Sex Education, which every church should have as a part of its Bible Study, youth should be taught about marriage, divorce, and the responsibility of raising or having a child. And even though the bible says no sex until after marriage, what about the 98 percent who are having sex or will be having sex out of wedlock? Do we forget them in the church? Why not teach them how to protect themselves from having an unplanned baby or a deadly disease.
Can you imagine growing up in a home where the father isn’t there and the mother doesn’t want you? That has to be hell on earth. And we wonder why there’s so much violence in the streets and homes.
(Ulish Carter is the managing editor of the New Pittsburgh Courier.)
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