Loose car
Dear Alma, I found out that my husband put his brother’s car in his name. This car once belonged to the brother’s ex-girlfriend. She bought it for him to drive when they were together. When they broke up, she wanted it back, but my brother-in-law refused and hid the car for many years. Recently, they found out the ex-girlfriend had died, so now my brother-in-law is riding around in the car again. He has no driver’s license because of tickets and DWI convictions. They got a copy of the ex-girlfriend’s death certificate, and my husband wrote a letter to the DMV claiming ownership. Now, this car is in my husband’s name and not my brother-in-law’s name. How should I approach my husband regarding this situation?—B.C., Atlanta, Ga.
Hey Now B.C., Approach! This is not an approach situation. This is a put your damn foot down, step on his neck, state of affairs. Your husband is a hustler, and so is his brother. They’ve committed a crime. But then again, you know who you’re dealing with, Cowgirl, because this is not your first time at the rodeo with him. Your BIL basically stole his ex-girlfriend’s car. I’ve heard of keeping an engagement ring, but this was jacked! Now (after the rightful owner has died), they submitted false information to the DMV. Do you know that your husband can go to jail? You better distance yourself and tell him you want no part of it—now or ever.
Hold up—wait a minute. I gotta feeling he and his family have had some shenanigans going on all along, and maybe you let it slide. Maybe a few of their schemes actually worked to your advantage. Problem is, when you become a participant, foolishness will always meet you at the fork in the road, which is where you’re standing. Pick a path and stay on it. At this point, you’re simply choosing right from wrong, and I think you’re trying to do what’s right. Distance yourself from your BIL, if necessary. It won’t be easy, but you’ve gotta do what you’ve gotta do. Tell your husband to remove his name—immediately—from the car’s registration documents. Let him know you’re done with the shim-shamming. If he won’t remove his name, send him packing. Tell him to go live in the garage, in the car, with his brother, since that’s who he’s committed to.—Alma
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